‘Everything We Were Taught About Success Is Wrong’


Megan Hellerer, a career coach and founder of Coaching for Underfulfilled Overachievers, offers an alternative to the relentless “hustle culture” and “destinational living” mindsets, which often emphasize long-term goals at the expense of present happiness. “There’s another way and I call it directional living,” writes Hellerer. “Here’s the catch: I can’t find fulfilment for you. The good news is that it’s all up to you…” An anonymous Slashdot reader shares an excerpt from the report published by The Guardian: Directional living is like the scientific method but for life. You begin with a hypothesis — your best guess as to the direction of a loose “something bigger”. You conduct tests and collect data through your experiences, refining your life hypothesis as you go.

If you have a hypothesis that involves living on the beach, you may test that by renting a house on the coast for one month and collecting data on how right, or not, that is for you. The goal is not to permanently relocate but to find out whether you want to continue exploring that path. Success is in finding what’s true, not in proving your original theory correct.

I’ve found this idea speaks uniquely to UFOAs at this moment in time. [UFOA is a term Hellerer came up with that stands for “underfulfilled overachiever.” This describes a constant striver who is living a great-on-paper life, yet feels disconnected from their work, life and self.] The closest thing I have to a personal motto is a quotation that’s widely attributed to Carl Jung but that, as it turns out, he never actually said at all. “The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.” My greatest hope for you is that you get to live this privilege fully.



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